Then the LORD God said, “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him.” Now out of the ground the LORD God had formed every beast of the field and every bird of the heavens and brought them to the man to see what he would call them.

“Has the essence of marriage has been gravely compromised?”

And whatever the man called every living creature, that was its name. The man gave names to all livestock and to the birds of the heavens and to every beast of the field. But for Adam there was not found a helper fit for him. So the LORD God caused a deep sleep to fall upon the man, and while he slept took one of his ribs and closed up its place with flesh. And the rib that the LORD God had taken from the man he made into a woman and brought her to the man. Then the man said, “This at last is bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man.” Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh. And the man and his wife were both naked and were not ashamed.” Genesis 2: 18-25

Perhaps you didn’t know? The Bible gives us clear decisive descriptions and explanations of what Christ defines as healthy resilient and romantic relationships. If I did not know any better I would think that Christ forgot to elaborate on the subject of “relationships or marriage” in the Bible. That is not the case though. In fact, as marriage goes, “no attention to relevant detail is spared when God explains how we should love one another as husband and wife, and as humans.”

Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her… This mystery is profound, and I am saying that it refers to Christ and the church.” Ephesians 5: 25, 32

For humans, trying to describe LOVE, or explain Love to two people who have not love, or who have never loved is tantamount to talking to two empty chairs, regardless of age. For this reason, God gives us transparent descriptions of love in its most in-depth sense, while providing instructions on how to love, be lovable and love Him. At no time does the Lord tell us that loving another guarantees love in return. In fact, misdirected love is often left unreciprocated. Pursuing love from one who shows no evidence of mutual feelings is a recipe for heartache. Many contemporary relationship experts would have some believe that it is productive to chase after somebody who shows no signs of wanting to be chased. Perhaps, this method is more unproductive than productive in the end.

Somewhere along the way, the world corrupted the institution of love and marriage. The level of corruption is so corrosive we may never see the essence of its godly purpose and relevance ever again. Since marriage will not exist in the Kingdom of Heaven, perhaps it is feasible to accept that marriage will never return to its rightful sacred place.

For many, the thought of finding the right mate seems almost impossible. The reasons for such doom-filled beliefs vary and differ in nature depending on who’s telling the story, male or female. At first glance, one would believe the culprit is selfishness, an over-saturated emphasis on sex and fear of commitment in a world that has come to de-value the importance of marriage. With all of these issues and even more not mentioned it is not surprising to see so many people taking the institution of marriage with a grain of salt. As it may be, many may think its too much work to set their sight on marriage when so many suitors prove to be unsuited for matrimony.

However, the problem for Christians is this; God commanded couples who love each other to marry each other. If Christians followed God’s instructions and obeyed His Word on all matters concerning life, while down here on earth, there would be fewer divorces. Watered-down scripture not only causes spiritual demise in church congregations it also wrecks havoc on personal lives of Christians as well. Religious leaders have a responsibility to see to it that they and fellow members both husbands and wives are treating each other as God commanded. Is this happening in your church? If not have you asked yourself why?

Is your pastor in tune to, privately when warranted, collectively and passionately addressing marriage issues church members may be experiencing, including his or her own? If not why?

Following you will find scripture related to romantic relationships, marriage, love, and commitment. The question is not whether or not they exist but whether God’s Word matters in your relationship?

Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her… This mystery is profound, and I am saying that it refers to Christ and the church. Ephesians 5: 25, 32

Ignoring Ephesians 5: 25, 32 in marriage may be the most egregious and selfish act one could ever become a party too while involved in a romantic relationship. In fact, if men took this particular scripture serious spousal abuse would probably be non-existent.  Laymen, as well as professed men of God, seem to take Ephesians 5: 25, 32, among others that give “God-breathed instructions for living in a godly marriage for granted. Scripture has multiple purposes but preventing us from harming one another is at the top of the list coupled with loving each other. When a believer not only memorizes scripture but applies it as well, communities enjoy safer, healthier, joyous and godly lives.

While obeying scripture is no guarantee that couples will not experience discord or divorce, it does guarantee that those involved, or who were once in love will be able to treat each other kind and be civil toward each other should they choose to part ways. I do not have to say this but I will “it is impossible to believe in God who is Love and treat a spouse unkind.” Whether male or female, as children of the Father; turning on each other in the midst of marital discord is not acceptable in God’s sight.
An excellent wife who can find? She is far more precious than jewels. The heart of her husband trusts in her, and he will have no lack of gain. Proverbs 31: 10, 11

Likewise, husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way, showing honor to the woman as the weaker vessel, since they are heirs with you of the grace of life, so that your prayers may not be hindered. 1 Peter 3: 7