Like it or not, teens having sex is here to stay. Although I don’t condone, I understand it and recognize the nature and seriousness of the issue. Additionally, since I like to keep it real, and since I married at 18 and had my first child at almost 19, I know a little about this subject. Kids raising kids is no joke. Abandoning them or ridiculing young people is not the answer either. I was blessed to loving support systems all around me during this period of my life. But what’s a young mother to do who does not have that? The cold hard fact is, Christian teens are having unmarried sex too, BAM! You know that, right? This includes preacher’s kids. Now just because the masses seem to be engaged doesn’t mean we should stop teaching our children about the importance of waiting until you’re married to have sex. I must admit, that view is rare today. Many wonder what went wrong?
Teen sex, sin, and the work required to save our children scare me. However, after 56 years in the trenches, I have some ideas. The first thing that went wrong was parents convincing themselves it’s OK for children to do things adults do. It doesn’t start with having sex, and it doesn’t end with having unwanted children. Our young people model our behavior, the good and the bad. It seems that young people today are more inclined to copy bad behavior than good. They crave the rush, and of course, the excitement doing dirty deeds bring.
Think about it. If adults get all twisted, confused and smitten doing things they shouldn’t be doing, then why would we expect young folk to show more self-control than we do? We are at a crossroad; should we teach them how to protect themselves should they find themselves caught up in passion or do we send them on their merry way, every day half-cocked. The problem is real. It’s not a unique religious matter and it’s about to not be a moral one either.
How we teach our children about having sex and the risk of contracting (STD’s) is critical to their physical, mental and emotional health. Growing up too fast is no joke. With it comes a mountain of struggles.
FACT: According to the (CDC) Center for Disease Control, there is substantial biological evidence demonstrating that the presence of other STDs increases the likelihood of both transmitting and acquiring HIV. “While sexually transmitted diseases (STDs) affect individuals of all ages, STDs take a particularly heavy toll on young people. CDC estimates that youth ages 15-24 make up just over one-quarter of the sexually active population, but account for half of the 20 million new sexually transmitted infections that occur in the United States each year.” If this doesn’t get you attention as a parent, then I don’t know what does.
Young people may know more about the nature and risk of contracting (STD)s than the average adult, but because they are not adults, it’s our job to teach them how to control sexual desires, and protect themselves in the event they elect to give up virginity.