Overwhelming sorrow, anger and heartache are common stages of grief. To thoroughly comprehend grief associated with death one must have firsthand knowedge. Anybody can utter the words “I’m sorry for you loss, and those words are always appropriate.”
In contrast, “if the words, “I know what you’re going through lack genuine concern the recipient of those words suffers even more. Many well-intentioned family members, friends and strangers who find themselves in the company of grieving persons don’t seem to get that!
Boy, how time flies. It’s been a journey, but still I have no right to complain. Although I’ve lost more love ones than the average person loses in life, Lord knows it could have been worse. Nobody has an accurate answer to the question, because grief affects us differently. There is no right or wrong way.
So, rather than feel sorry for myself let me highlight times when bad things turned to teaching moments.
First of all, I want to thank God for giving me an overabundance of second chances. Second chances are perfect examples of how God turns bad things into good things. Opportunity is a good thing!
You see, almost every time that I experienced grief my heart became more pliable, kinder, gentler, and sweeter as a result of the pain it caused.
~God was breaking me down so that He could use me.~
“In the same way I will not cause pain without allowing something new to be born,” says the Lord. “If I cause you the pain, I will not stop you from giving birth to your new nation,” says your God.” Isaiah 66:9
I can honestly say that more often than not, my pain resulted in another person’s gain. And let me be clear, these gains came to fruition only by the grace of God. There is nothing that I did, nor could have done to “allow something new to be born.”
Seems like whenever I crossed paths with grief, babies were being born, in the midst of mourn? Financial rivers dried up as others began to flourish. Blessings came out of nowhere, from any and everywhere, just when needed most.
For that reason, my answer to the question, “How long is too long to grieve?” may shock you!