People can also be trouble disguised as help. Take for instance, the fake-friend who envies you, is jealous or deep down inside doesn’t really like you. That friend is always there to offer advice, criticize, show off and lift you up only to tear you down.
I remember the day my best friend shared a story with me about a time when another friend of hers started off saying something kind but ended her statement with unkind words. to get our nice to her that ended unkind. Many years ago my best friend ran into an old girlfriend who she had known since child hood. The conversation started off beautifully, as both reminisced about growing up together in the same neighborhood.
However, as the conversation reached a plateau, the friend said to my best friend, “your hair is still so pretty, but its so thin?” Okay, my best friend’s hair was very thin, but it was more pretty than it was thin. So, why did this woman feel compelled to throw shade over sunshine?
Initially, the spirits of both were lifted by running into each,other. That was what appeared to be help. Then something sinister happened, somebody in the mix didn’t really want to help, she wanted to cause trouble, as in troubling the spirit of another.
How to Recognize & Resist Trouble Disguised as Help
Don’t just be aware of your surroundings, be aware of who you surround yourself with. Consequently, it helps to pay as much attention to what people are not saying as you do to what they are saying. This is how you prepare to protect yourself. When you come into the presence of a person who does not care for you don’t invite them into your circle. Handle them with a long handled spoon. In other words, “be cordial, uninviting and brief.” Nobody is obligated to answer or respond to questions they would prefer not to answer. I don’t know why so many people today feel obligated to let strangers into their bedrooms “so- to- speak.” It’s crazy! Know your limitations, and where you draw the line before giving people permission to engage or approach.
Recognizing trouble is not as difficult as on may think. The most powerful weapon one can use against trouble is self-confidence. Knowing who you are prohibits others from penetrating the core of your self-esteem. Being true to yourself means that you have taken the time to study self, and as a result already know your shortcomings.
Know your shortcomings:
The truth sets people free, and allows them to know their shortcomings which gives one the upper hand. Through the lens of truth we see who is and is not a true friend. Truth also helps us understand that nobody can make us miserable without our permission. Altogether, having self-confidence enables us to see through disguises designed to cause us emotional distress.
Essentially, if you are true to yourself, people who set out to harm you emotionally, spiritually or physically seldom prevail.