Selah is a word used often in the bible. It means [pause, and calmly think of that!]
Who among us has not experienced a time when words we longed to say had no business being said? Some Christians may find it difficult recalling or owning those moments as though God does not already know about them. Not only does the Father know when, He knows why, and He knows if you struggled to hold them in or could not wait to get them out. The latter does not necessarily mean you are an evil person. Perhaps, the situation caught you off guard, at your weakest. When we are at our weakest our faith suffers, causing us to speak before we think, using the tongue to hurt rather than heal. “For the word of God is living and active, sharper than any two-edged sword, piercing to the division of soul and of spirit, of joints and of marrow, and discerning the thoughts and intentions of the heart.” Hebrews 4: 12
Thank God most people do not aspire to be cruel. On the other hand, some people do strive to be cruel, believing that cruel words are more effective. In 1994 when my son passed away. A few weeks later, after we buried him, I went back to church. When Sunday service ended, I headed toward the back of the church to leave. A longtime usher stood by the exit. She stopped me just before I walked through the exit door. She said, I heard about your son; I am so sorry. I said, thank you. She kept talking when she should have stopped. Before I could get another word in, and immediately after she extended condolences, she replied, ” at least you did not lose your mother; that is harder than losing a kid?” OMG, I thought to myself. Her mother was 70 something, and my son was 18-years old when he was struck and killed by a 21-year-old driver. Her words minimized the value of my son’s life to inflate the importance of her mom’s. She was in her mid 50’s, had no children, and had never been married.
All those years of the church, Bible study, praying and worshiping the pastor, and she could not find it in her heart to speak healing words unless she added hurtful words. She was the kind who built people up to tear them down. Her words could with her church status disturbed me deeply. It took all I had to not retaliate verbally, in a cruel and penetrating manner. I took the high road. I said, have a blessed day and got out of there. She should have thought about what she wanted to say before she said it. Even more important, she was supposed to know better! Selah| Pause and Calmly Think of That
“When words are many, transgression is not lacking, but whoever restrains his lips is prudent.
“Your own soul is nourished when you are kind, but you destroy yourself when you are cruel.” Proverbs 11:17
“A gentle answer turns away wrath, but hard words stir up anger.” Proverbs 15: 1
“Gentle words bring life and health; a deceitful tongue crushes the spirit.” Proverbs 15:4
In other words, be still. Slow your road before you hit something. Calm down so God can show you how to rise above your circumstances. Selah!
A sign of things being out of control is a feeling of having lost control. It is a time when kind words may not come easy. Perhaps it seems like everything you touch turns to crap. Do not be afraid. Never give up. “God can help you get back on track. Selah! Pause now, and calmly think of that.
Again, think before you speak. Consider the source always. Will the words you speak be coming from a good place?
Words are powerful. In fact, certain words have the propensity to render one powerless. Therefore, God warns us to choose them carefully. What words are resting on your tongue this moment? Are they sweeter than honey or bitter as turpentine?
Whose about to taste something you can’t wait to spit?
But sexual immorality and all impurity or covetousness must not even be named among you, as is proper among saints. Let there be no filthiness nor foolish talk nor crude joking, which are out of place, but instead let there be thanksgiving. For you may be sure of this, that everyone who is sexually immoral or impure, or who is covetous (that is, an idolater), has no inheritance in the kingdom of Christ and God. Ephesians 5: 3-5
Pull back if the words resting on your tongue are too ungodly to say in Jesus’ presence, under any circumstance. No man or woman can truthfully say words unbecoming to the Father have never crossed your mind. The issue is not the crossing; rather, it is what you do with the words that matter. Before words unbecoming of a Christian leave your tongue, pause, calmly think about their gravity.Ephesians 5: 3-5
When in doubt about whether to say something out loud, always ask God to bridle your tongue until He gives you the right words to say. Selah! Pause and calmly think of that.