If asked, most mothers or fathers would probably agree that losing a child is the most traumatic experience any parent could go through. And, I suspect that if one of those same people went really deep emotionally they would struggle with what to do when a child goes away.
A moment of silence is in order! Have you grieved personally for those who have become unwilling victims of COVID 19 or have you written them off?
“You don’t know what a person is going through unless they tell you so don’t pretend to know the origin of their pain.”