A Mother's Twisted Love
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The top and shocking reasons God hates lying and conspiring to do wrong may surprise you if you’ve never thought about how lies and deceit affect others. The consequences of a mother’s twisted love and lies can be devastating. In this post we will examine the consequences of a mother’s unequal and twisted love for her sons. One big lie some mothers tell involves pretending to love off-spring equally and unconditionally while exhibiting behavior that suggests otherwise. Another, engaging in behavior that results in ungodly outcomes. Read more here about how a mother’s twisted love and lies destroyed her family.

Have you ever caused your child to feel unloved?

Following you will learn about ways mother’s can unknowingly destroy a child’s life and legacy by loving one more than the other.

To accomplish the above undesirable outcome entails living a lie in some form or another. The most serious consequence of living a lie is it’s propensity to harm another. Secondly, lying tarnishes character. Thirdly, being labeled a liar can cause people to not believe you when you decide to tell the truth. Essentially, people don’t trust people who have reputations for skirting the truth. This is why God hates lying.

Simply stated, “habitual liars sow dissention.” Simple definitions of dissention include strife, bickering, or a fuss. Even more, lying involves engaging in mischievous behavior to accomplish an outcome or reaction favorable to the deceiver regardless of consequences.

Living a Lie

Who among us has not crossed paths with somebody who has a bad relationship with the truth? People who tell untruths on a regular basis eventually become habitual liars without warning. When a person repeatedly lies they lose track of the lies they tell. Some even start believing their own lies. Of course, while there is no such thing as a “white lie” as some may want us to believe, joyous jokes or pranks that don’t harm people do not apply. How is this all related? Well, Rebekah, did not envision that the dire situation she created involved lying.

Intent Matters

An example of a lie that isn’t really a lie is one told to execute a prank. Intentions and motives matter. Pranks are not meant to harm but to humor? The truth always comes out during the life of the prank. So, at the end of the day there is no harm, no foul. I know, some pranks are not received well, but that’s another story entirely. What God hates in the latter example is the prankster’s intent to do harm or hurt a person’s feelings.

On the other hand, take somebody who lies to friends and family routinely to not get in trouble or to get something they think they deserve or want badly, “these are the kind of lies that the Lord hates.”

Lies can manifest in behavior, through words or actions. Yes, it is possible to act out a lie. A perfect example is depicted in Genesis 27: 1-40, this fascinating passage tells a story about a mother (Rebekah), her ailing husband (Isaac), and their two sons brothers Esau and Jacob. Out of jealousy and envy Jacob plotted to steal his brother Esau’s blessing. Even more troubling about the event is their mother Rebekah’s involvement. Rebekah concocted the entire plot! She put deceitful ideas in younger son Jacob’s head, and coerced him to trick his father. Jacob went through the trouble of disguising himself to make his blind father think that he was his older brother, Esau. The lie started with Rebekah, and evolved through Jacob’s intentional acts of deceit. The disguise was a lie. The actions were dishonest and the heart was impure.

Very seldom, if ever will you encounter writings putting the spotlight on mother Rebekah’s deplorable actions. I don’t know why. Rebekah’s involvement is highlighted in the following Scripture.


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And Rebekah spake unto Jacob her son, saying, Behold, I heard thy father speak unto Esau thy brother, saying,

7 Bring me venison, and make me savoury meat, that I may eat, and bless thee before the LORD before my death.

8 Now therefore, my son, obey my voice according to that which I command thee.

9 Go now to the flock, and fetch me from thence two good kids of the goats; and I will make them savoury meat for thy father, such as he loveth:

10 And thou shalt bring it to thy father, that he may eat, and that he may bless thee before his death.

11 And Jacob said to Rebekah his mother, Behold, Esau my brother is a hairy man, and I am a smooth man:

12 My father peradventure will feel me, and I shall seem to him as a deceiver; and I shall bring a curse upon me, and not a blessing.

13 And his mother said unto him, Upon me be thy curse, my son: only obey my voice, and go fetch me them. King James Online Genesis 27: 6-13

Jacob’s brother Esau was the rightful heir, but Jacob his brother was jealous of Esau and unhappy about their father’s decision to bless Esau. Rebekah, the boys mother was heavily vested in the obsession, and desire to help son Jacob steal her younger son’s inheritance. She put the entire elaborate plan together for the younger son to steal his oldest brother’s inheritance. At one point Jacob pushed back voicing concerns to his mother about tricking his brother Esau.

It appears that Jacob’s mother wanted the blessing bestowed upon him as much or more than he did. Right here we see evidence of a mother loving one son more than the other. We also see deceitful behavior orchestrated by a third party but carried out by a target. Yes Jacob became his mother’s target. His mother-given assignment was to deprive his older brother Esau of his legitimate place and honor. Obviously, Rebekah loved Jacob more, so much so that she engaged in behavior that caused Esau to eventually hate his brother Jacob. How could she do that?

Have you ever did or said something that caused your child to feel unloved or less loved?

Somebody is probably saying “who does that?” Well, I say, don’t even try to pretend that similar situations in modern-day societies are unheard of. In fact, mother/daughter, and mother/son friction and disfunction is common today. Mother’s have a great responsibility when it comes to babies they bring into the world. The influence of mother’s over sons and daughters when it exists should not be underestimated. They have power; power to go left or go right.

The problem arises when a mother has selfish, or harbors ill intentions when interacting with offspring. In this world it is not uncommon to see parents use children as bait, hostages or worse during divorce and while together. Additionally, some turn one or more children against each other by showing more love for one than another. That’s what this story is about.

Sadly, there are even women who grow to resent or hate a child who looks like the husband or baby daddy who left them. This is the real world, the one we live in as we speak. That said, there are Rebekah’s among us. If you are a Rebekah, it is not to late to change your ways. Do it before permanent damage to the family unit is done. Fess up! Take a trip back down memory lane to recollect situations involving times when you did not behave as a woman of God should.

Genesis 27: 5- 16
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And Rebekah heard when Isaac spake to Esau his son. And Esau went to the field to hunt for venison, and to bring it.

6 And Rebekah spake unto Jacob her son, saying, Behold, I heard thy father speak unto Esau thy brother, saying,

7 Bring me venison, and make me savoury meat, that I may eat, and bless thee before the LORD before my death.

8 Now therefore, my son, obey my voice according to that which I command thee.

9 Go now to the flock, and fetch me from thence two good kids of the goats; and I will make them savoury meat for thy father, such as he loveth:

10 And thou shalt bring it to thy father, that he may eat, and that he may bless thee before his death.

11 And Jacob said to Rebekah his mother, Behold, Esau my brother is a hairy man, and I am a smooth man:

12 My father peradventure will feel me, and I shall seem to him as a deceiver; and I shall bring a curse upon me, and not a blessing.

13 And his mother said unto him, Upon me be thy curse, my son: only obey my voice, and go fetch me them.

14 And he went, and fetched, and brought them to his mother: and his mother made savoury meat, such as his father loved.

15 And Rebekah took goodly raiment of her eldest son Esau, which were with her in the house, and put them upon Jacob her younger son:

16 And she put the skins of the kids of the goats upon his hands, and upon the smooth of his neck:

And Esau hated Jacob because of the blessing wherewith his father blessed him: and Esau said in his heart, The days of mourning for my father are at hand; then will I slay my brother Jacob.

Consequences

Let my father arise and eat of his son’s venison, that your soul may bless me. (Genesis 27:31)

And we can really feel his and his father’s disappointment, grief, and then anger, when the truth becomes apparent.

And Isaac said, “Who are you?” And he said, “I am your son, your firstborn, Esau.” And Isaac trembled exceedingly, and said, “Who? Where is the one who hunted game and brought it to me? And I ate all of it before you came, and I have blessed him – and indeed he shall be blessed.” And when Esau heard the words of his father, he cried with an exceedingly great and bitter cry, and said to his father, “Bless me, even me also, O my father!” Genesis 27: 32-34

How God Used the bad in Jacob’s Sin for Good.

Picture how Esau must have felt after learning that his younger brother stole his blessing. While on the surface Jacob appears to have won that assumption is premature. Esau’s destiny will come to fruition albeit after initially serving under the province of his brother, Jacob. God used Jacob to establish Esau’s position to receive yet unseen blessings staged in the future. In other words, Esau’s fate was pre-ordained in such away to carry out God’s will in the end.

Scripture about Lying and Deceit


“Everyone deceives his neighbor
And does not speak the truth,
They have taught their tongue to speak lies;
They weary themselves committing iniquity.
Jeremiah 9:5

In short, Jacob decided to play a prank on Esau by pretending to be him to steal his blessing. To out the prank, Jacob dressed in Esau’s cloths. He even put sheep’s wool over his head so that when his father touched his hair he would think it was Esau’s hair. A lot of planning went into the lie. Because Jacob smelled like Esau and the sheep wool over his head felt like Esau’s, the father trusted the situation and had no reason to suspect that Jacob was not Esau.

The next day, when Isaac realized he had been tricked, he was furious and Esau was devastated and heart broken.

Remove the false way from me, And graciously grant me Your law. Psalm 119:29

Not only had Jacob lied he caused others pain, hurt, and misappropriation of an inheritance. There is no indication in the passage of Jacob or his mother realizing the gravity of their actions and the harm caused. Basically, the two wanted what they wanted at any cost.

Conclusion

The story of Jacob stealing his brother Esau’s blessing teaches us a valuable lesson about honor, character and the love of God. In addition, we learned that some mother’s struggle to love unconditional and have no problem engaging in behavior that harms one offspring or the other. Rebekah disregarded one child’s feelings to over-compensate for another’s. She failed to recognize that honesty and integrity are the foundation of a healthy and harmonious family. If you realize that you have mother Rebekah’s ways and shortcomings, now is the time to ask God to change your heart. It’s not too late!

Have you caused your child to feel unloved?

Scripture About Lying

Proverbs 12:22 (Bible, New Testament) – “Lying lips are an abomination to the Lord, but those who act faithfully are his delight.”

Colossians 3:9 (Bible, New Testament) – “Do not lie to one another, seeing that you have put off the old self with its practices.”

Leviticus 19:11 (Bible, Old Testament) – “You shall not steal; you shall not deal falsely; you shall not lie to one another.”

Quran, Surah Al-Baqarah: 42 – “And mix not truth with falsehood, nor conceal the truth while you know it.”

Bhagavad Gita, Chapter 17, Verse 15 – “A truthful person does not utter anything that is not true, and is steadfast in speaking the truth.”

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